How To Improve Emotional Resilience

Having a better understanding of your wellbeing is a vital part of your mental and emotional resilience toolkit. Emotional Resiliency is something that people learn during our lifetime. It is the way we get through experiencing setbacks and instead of using those moments as an opportunity for growth.

Why can two people have the same experience but react differently?

Why does one person have the emotional resilience to overcome adversity, while the other struggles and feels unable to cope?

We all react to situations in a way that fits with our personal view of the world. This particular view was created through the years by the influence of family, peer groups, religious beliefs, experiences etc. As a result, two people can have the same experience but react in vastly different ways.

How can you improve your emotional resilience?

1) Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

The only way to find out if your perceptions are correct and creating happiness rather than sadness in your life is to step outside your comfort zone and challenge some of your ideas. When you can do this, you start to see that maybe things aren’t the way you thought they were!
To help build your emotional resilience, find time to take stock of just how your uncontrolled emotions are affecting your day-to-day life. As a result, you will be able to identify problem areas more efficiently as well as track your successes.

For each negative statement, ask yourself these questions:

• What evidence do I have for this belief?
• What other explanations are there?
• How likely is this to be the case?
• If it concerned someone else what would I think?

2) Become the Boss of Your Own Emotions

Having good emotional resilience means you have a better sense of wellbeing. Emotions can bring you excitement, joy and vibrancy. Alternatively, they can bring sadness, anger and distress.

How can you control how you are feeling?

Well if you consider emotions as energy in motion that you can do something about changing negative emotions. Understand your feelings and develop empathy for them. A key element of regaining control and regulation of difficult or intense emotions is to understand your triggers; before the feelings become too big and take action to change them. It is also about being able to sit with your feelings. We can learn to manage emotions and manifest change when we get a sense of what is coming up for us.

4) Surround Yourself the Right People

You become what and who you have in your environment. Who are the people around you? Are the people around you supportive, and positively look at life. Or are they “mood hoovers” Do they support you or affect your confidence? Spend time with people that make you feel good about the world and yourself.

5) Make Time for Gratitude in Your Life Everyday

Instead of focusing on all the things that have gone wrong today, or that is wrong with the world. Concentrate on what you have that is good in your life. Try this simple exercise at the end of each day that will help you challenge your mindset and get you off to sleep with positive thoughts.
At the end of each day, no matter what has happened that has been negative, come up with ten things that make you feel grateful. You can either write them in a journal each night or simply say them out loud. So simply, I am thankful for and then say thank you at the end of each one.

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